Frequently Asked Questions and Party Rules
You may be an experienced swinger and have attended many parties or you may be a complete beginner and are nervous about what you'd expect at a bi party. Whichever category you are in you should read the below FAQ and the What To Expect page as they will let you know what happens and what is and isn't acceptable behaviour at our events. Although we support freedom of expression our party rules do need to be followed or you will be asked to leave.
• I am single and straight, can I come to your parties?
The answer is No. You have to be at least bi curious to attend a Bi Fun Club party. Our definition of being bi curious is someone that doesn’t object to being touched and/or sexually stimulated by a member of their own sex. If you don’t meet that minimum requirement you would not be welcome at one of our parties.
• I am straight but my partner is bi, can I come to your parties?
We allow this combination to attend Bi Fun Club parties but only with the proviso that the straight member of the couple does not join in any group play without their partner being present.
• What happens when I arrive at the party?
You can arrive up to 15 minutes prior to the scheduled start time if you want extra time to prepare, but please no earlier. When guests arrive they are checked in against the door list and the party will then start at the scheduled time. No id is required unless you are lucky enough to look under 21 in which case there will be an age verification request. The party will start by some of our lady guests inviting the guys to come with them to one of the large open play rooms, get naked and start having fun. If you prefer a slower start or just want to watch that will be OK as well just let the girls know they are very understanding.
• I can't make the exact start time is that a problem?
Our parties last for four hours but very few people actually stay for that amount of time, the average being around two hours. As long as you have a reserved a place at the party you can arrive and leave at any time between 11am and 3pm.
• How much does it cost? how do I reserve my place?
All details are on the "Contact & Bookings" tab. Please note that after paying your entrance fee there are no other charges to pay.
• I am very nervous can you tell me more about the venue and if I have to walk around naked?
Being nervous is a natural reaction to doing anything for the first time. There aren't that many bi parties being held in the London area so you will not be alone in being a newbie to the bi party scene. You enter the venue in your street clothes and there is no need to take off anything unless you want to, it will always be your decision. If you do want to dress up the venue has a dedicated changing room and you are free to use this to change into any outfit you may have brought with you. As well as the changing room people also take off and store their clothes in the bedrooms before playing. After playing some people then walk around in their underclothes or naked, the choice will always be yours. There’s no need to be embarrassed about your appearance as you’ll be surrounded by like minded non judgemental men and women. Though you may be nervous when you ring the house door bell for the first time once you are inside and you can see the diversity of guests you will be put at ease.
• What actually takes place inside the venue when the party starts?
There is no simple answer to this question so to answer it we have added a separate page on this website "What To Expect" which you should read
• I am travelling by car, is there parking close to the party?
The party venue is on a main road which doesn’t have any available car parking spaces immediately outside but there's a lot of available free parking on the various side streets close by and you’ll have a lot of choice within a 5 minute walk to the house. The house itself has a small driveway so it will be possible to drop off any passengers who have mobility issues and then go park your vehicle. There is parking in front of the venue for a very few vehicles but these spaces are only available for use by the party organizers and the party support staff.
• I don't have a car, How can I get to the venue by public transport?
Sutton rail station is an minute walk from the venue and if you don't want to walk there is a large taxi rink outside the station and a taxi will cost approx £5 and take less than 5 minutes. There is a direct train service to Sutton from Victoria, Clapham Junction, Wimbledon, West Croydon and other stations. In addition to trains there are many bus routes which go to Sutton.
• I am a T Girl, do I have to arrive fully dressed to get the reduced admission charge?
No you don't. There is a dedicated changing area at the venue you can use and we open at 10.45am for anyone who wants that little bit extra time to get ready.
• What is your definition of a T Girl?
We offer a £20 entry fee for T Girls but please understand that any cross dressing males who just wear panties or similar attire are welcome to attend our parties dressed that way but will be charged as a single male. Management's decision is final on this matter so please don't try and abuse this concession given to the girls that make an effort. There are no firm rules on the subject but here are some of the items we would consider when making a determination (1) Using facial make up (2) Wearing a wig or having an appropriate hair style (3) Wearing a dress or a femimine outfit (4) Having female styled accessories such as jewellery or handbag. (5) No hair on face, chest and legs (6) False or enhanced breasts. A T Girl won’t be required to have all of these attributes but you are unlikely to be granted the £20 admission charge unless you exhibit 3 or 4 out of the six. You should note that anyone who has a beard or significant amount of facial hair will not be considered a T Girl for the purpose of the £20 entry. The organisers of The Bi Fun Club appreciate that a true T Girl can only be defined by their psychological make up and not by any physical attribute but we have to have rules that are easy to administer.
• How many guests are going to be at the party?
We can never tell the exact numbers in advance because of “no shows” and last minute cancellations but we always strive to get a good mixture of participants. A typical party will have an attendance of between 80 and 100 people made up of couples, T Girls, single ladies and of course single men. Based on the parties held so far the split is likely to be approx - 50 men, 23 Ladies and 12 T Girls but the exact ratio will be different at each party.
• Will there definitely be ladies at the party?
There will definitely be ladies at each and every Bi Fun Club party. To ensure a good mix of guests we give free admission to all ladies and mixed sex couples. This means that the contribution from single males is higher than it would be otherwise but that is offset by a better mix of guests. Because we use an online booking site we can monitor the mix of people who will be attending each event. We want these parties to be run on a regular basis so we will be ensuring that the right combination of people are on the guest list.
• If I attend a Bi Fun Club Party will I be guarenteed sex?
The answer is No. Any sex that happens at our parties is between consenting adults and this means that everyone has the right to say no to any request. This having been said everyone who attends the parties will be sexually aware and the reason for being there is to have sex with like minded people. There will be lots and lots of opportunities to have sex for anyone who shows good manners and is respectful.
• Do I have to ask permission to touch someone at the party? What happens if my approach is rejected?
Permission should always be sought for any activity but as you become more confident and are able to read the situation you’ll recognize facial expressions and other signs of acceptance without having to use words. If you are unsure proceed cautiously and don’t be upset if you advance is rejected. Before any sexual contact first ask the person you are interested in and wait for consent. No one at the party should be treated as common property. Consent for any sexual act is required Respect the wish of your prospective partner and never force yourself upon them. No always means No. The reason people will be attending our parties is to have sexual pleasure but during the four hours there will be rest time as well so just be patient.
• I prefer watching rather than participating, is this an option?
Of course it is. You can watch for part or even the whole of the party. Remember this is a no pressure event so if all you are after is to be in the middle of a porn scene and watch the other guests without playing then that will be fine.
• Are condoms and lube available at the party?
There will be a supply of free condoms, lube and wet wipes available in each playroom but if you have an allergy or particular requirement you should bring your own.
• As this is a bi party, does that mean there will be lots of anal sex and I will be expected to kiss other men/women?
Anal sex is always acceptable between consenting adults at our parties but as anal sex tends to be more of a 1 on 1 activity it isn’t as frequently practised at the orgies as other forms of sexual expression. Don’t worry if you don’t like anal sex or kissing people of the same sex as neither activity is expected and quite a few bisexuals will have the same preference as you and not want to indulge in either of these activities. Remember No always means No.
• I enjoy watersports and wax play. Will I be able to do those activities at your party?
Unfortunately neither of those activities are allowed at our parties. The reason is that if we choose to do them they would require a dedicated area and close supervision neither of which we have.
• I have a girlfriend/boyfriend who is quite shy, can I go into one of the playrooms and lock the door?
The answer to this question is No. Our parties promote sexual freedom and openness so we have an open door policy for all the playrooms. You can of course play with your partner on one of the beds and restricting who can or can’t join you but there can’t be any closed doors.
• Can you tell me if Mr X or Ms Y will be attending the next party? I have met Mr X or Ms Y at your last party and got on really well can you let me have their details so I can see them again.
We get these sort of questions asked but the answer is always the same. We don’t give out anyone’s personal details either before or after a party. If you have made a connection with someone at one of our parties it is up to you to get their personal details.
• Is safe sex practised?
Condoms must be used for penetration and must be changed when moving between partners. If a condom breaks or comes off, inform the other person immediately so that the situation can be dealt with.
• Are condoms used for oraI sex?
Oral sex is usually, but not always without a condom, it is at the participants discretion. Please note if you are a male and are receiving oral sex you cannot cum in their mouth without asking permission and being granted it in advance. You cannot assume someone by their actions will allow you to cum in their mouth so always ask and accept the answer given. Many very sexually active men and woman have a strong aversion to someone cumming in their mouth and some will have an instant bite reaction if it happens so unless you want teeth marks on your cock (or worse) it is advisable to follow this rule.
• Is there an age limit? I don’t believe I have a desirable body shape is that a problem? Are there any other restrictions ie race, colour, origin etc?
The minimum age for attendance is 21 but there is no upper age limit. At any event there is usually broad age range present, so whatever your age you won’t feel like the ‘odd one out’. If you are lucky enough to look younger, ID will be required for age verification purposes only. Please do not think these parties are for the young and gym fit and not attend because you feel you might be embarrassed, everyone is friendly and not at all pushy. Everyone from 21yrs to 70yrs is welcome and it doesn't matter if you are slim or overweight, good looking or ugly, there will be a wide range of different people from various backgrounds present so there is no need to feel out of place. It's attitude and personality that counts, this party is run by regular people with a high sex drive for other regular people with a high sex drive.
• I am disabled can I come to your party?
Of course you can provided you realise that there are no lifts so all upstairs rooms have to be accessed via stairs. The dungeon is downstairs as is one of the bedrooms. You should note the party can get very crowded and held in a regular house so unfortunately it would be dificult for wheelchair users to navigate even the downstairs areas. If you have special needs or are unsure please contact us.
• How about data privacy?
Your personal data, email address, mobile, name etc are completely confidential and will not be passed to any third parties for any reason.
• Can I take photos or video at the party?
No photos or video can be taken at our events. This is a strictly enforced rule and anyone attempting to breach it will be asked to leave immediately without any refund of their entrance fee.
• Can I use my mobile phone at the party?
Mobile phones can only be used in the kitchen area or the outside smoking area. You should be aware this rule has been made not because we don’t want you to make phone calls but because all mobile phones have cameras that can be easily used if the unit is switched on and therefore photographs can be taken without the knowledge of the person being photographed. Privacy and confidentiality are vitally important to us and the guests at the party so we never will put people in a position where that confidentiality could be breached.
• I have already been to one of your parties and saw an advert of another similar event. Can I just turn up? Can I bring my mates too?
No, You have to go through the same entrance procedure for each party
• Is there a dress code?
We don't restrict our guests in their choice of clothing but generally we reserve our right to refuse your entry if you are wearing tracksuit bottoms, ripped jeans, hoodies or similar atire. If you are in the construction industry or are an outdoor worker please make sure you arrive clean and fresh. Arriving dirty, unclean or smelly won’t make a good impression to our guests
• Are there any lockers and is there a changing room at the venue that can be used?
Unfortunately there are only a couple of lockers available at the venue but we do operate a cloakroonm type system to look after small valuables. Each guest who wants to store something will be supplied a plastic bag where valuables can be placed and the guest will be given a numbered token. The bag will then be given the same number and put in a secure locker and the valuables can be claimed by the guest before they leave. Our party venue is a private house so doesn’t have the multiple locker facilities available at a club but we feel this solution will work for anyone who is concerned about the safety of their valuables. We still advise that you do not take any valuables to the party if you do so and we can not be held liable for any loss or damage to anything left unattended. There will be a separate room set aside for guests to change from their street clothes to some sexy attire should they wish.
• Can I smoke at the party?
Smoking isn't allowed anywhere inside the house but there is an outside smoking hut attached to the house that can be used. The smoking hut is accessable using a short covered walkway so you won't get wet if raining nor will you have to change clothes as it is discreet and private.
• Will I be able to get and take drugs at the party?
There is strictly no dealing or using illegal drugs allowed at our events. Offenders will be asked to leave immediately and they will not be allowed to attend any future events.
• Can I buy viagra at the party?
No, we do not sell viagra or anything similar at the party.
• Is any food or drink available at the party?
We do supply a selection of soft drinks and snacks. You are free to bring and consume your own alcohol at the party however we will not tolerate excessive drinking or drunken behaviour. Such guests will be politely asked to leave.
• What happens if one of the party rules is broken?
Our guests are most dear to us and we would love to have long-term relationship with them but in the event of a breach of any of our party rules we will be compelled to take action. At the first instance of the breach of rule, our staff will caution the guest and remind them about the party rules. On the second breach or if the breach is of a serious nature the guest will be asked to leave and not allowed to attend any future parties.
If you have a question not answered above please do not hesitate to get in touch.